To the Little Girl Who Abandoned Herself

There is a version of you who learned very early that her needs were “too much.”

Maybe she watched adults crumble under the weight of their own emotions.

Maybe every time she asked for something, she was met with silence, avoidance, or punishment.

Maybe she was told she was strong, mature, capable long before she ever felt safe enough to just be a child.

So she adapted.

• She learned to shrink her needs until they were whispers.

• She learned to read the room instead of listening to her body.

• She learned that independence was survival, not empowerment.

And because she had no one to choose her…she stopped choosing herself.

This is the part most people don’t understand:

Self-abandonment isn’t a personality trait. It’s a survival response.

You didn’t become independent, you felt you had to. You didn’t stop asking for help because you’re strong you stopped asking because every time you reached out, it hurt.

And now, as an adult, you keep wondering:

• Why is it so hard to say what I want?

• Why do I hesitate before expressing a need?

• Why do I take care of everyone else first?

• Why do I default to silence, even when something feels wrong?

• Why can’t I let myself receive?

Because somewhere deep inside, your inner child still believes:

If I ask… something bad will happen.

This is the truth that needs to be spoken out loud.

You didn’t abandon yourself because you didn’t know how to ask. You abandoned yourself because no one taught you that your needs matter. Even the tiniest “need”.

And this is where your healing begins.

Your inner child doesn’t need you to be stronger.She doesn’t need you to be more spiritual, more healed, or more emotionally perfect.

She needs:

• Your presence.

• Your honesty.

• Your willingness to acknowledge what she never could.

Here is the message she’s been waiting for… that came through me as a download on the beach:

“To the little girl who abandoned herself. I know it's hard to ask for what you want because you don't even ask for what you need. Your past has made you super independent. It's not about being stronger or more independent or less needy. Just because you won't ask for anything doesn't mean you don't have needs. You're actually abandoning yourself by not following your instincts.

This is your permission to ask for what you want and need!”

Read it again.
Slowly.

You are not “too much.”
You are not “needy.”
You are not a burden.
You are not supposed to handle everything alone.

Independence served you once. But it’s not the life you’re meant to live forever.

Your inner child is tired of being silenced. She is tired of being the one who holds everything together. She is tired of pretending she doesn’t care, doesn’t feel, doesn’t need.

She wants to come home. She wants you to choose her now the way no one chose her then. This means loving her exactly how she is and integrating her into your beautiful heart. You know the heart that you always give to others. She is asking to give her some of that unconditional love.

Let yourself (inner child) ask.
Let yourself (inner child) want.
Let yourself (inner child) receive.

That is not weakness.
It is repair.

And it’s how you finally stop abandoning yourself.

With love,

Christin Your West Maui Energy Healer